Trans, straight, bi, gay ...... Why does it matter what someone has between their legs or does between the sheets? Do you ask your pastor if he tucks to the left or the right? Do you ask your neighbor if they prefer leather or silk? Do you ask your boss if they are pierced? . These are all personal information that the world doesn't know and shouldn't care about. Unless you have a proclivity for peering into bedrooms the only thing that should matter is..... are they good people?
Most days I am just here as a warm body that he talks at. He doesn't even talk to me, just at me. I've given up even attempting to interject points because he just talks over me. When I do talk I know that he hasn't heard me because he'll tell me the exact same thing minutes, hours or days later. He can't stand not being the focus of a group, not being involved.